Be nice and you'll be in better shape, it proved!

Lately, books, articles say that being "nice does not necessarily happy."

However, I've always learned that the kindness was not a failure, quite the contrary. I always learned it was better to attend the nice people than bad people.

I do not know you, but me, I tend to favor me with a person who sees me, that speaks to me correctly, that attention to me rather than someone who constantly belittles me, that insulted and cast me as less than nothing!

I do not think an extra-terrestrial by saying that! I guess you're all thinking the same thing as me. But now it seems that kindness is more wind in its sails. It would be a sign of weakness, lack of confidence, submission, low self-esteem.

I take my example. I pretend to be a nice person (yes, dare I admit) and yet I did not feel weak and lower me to the other side. Indeed, my kindness is somehow innate in me and I do not play comedy. My kindness is real and not feigned. I also do not see what could give me malice, anger and aggression: people bow down before me, even better would be afraid of me and obey me the finger and the eye? How horrible! This is not what I want in life. I want people to appreciate me for who I am and I firmly believe that my kindness helps me more than malice.

For some authors, the evil would be a sign of assertiveness. You know "screaming", so you'll be more respected, is the leitmotif of fashion nowadays. Those who think so imagine it being nice means being a mop, a mop that dare not deny things, saying yes to everything. But for me, the definition of kindness is another. Just because you say no to something you are necessarily bad. The key is to clearly explain the reasons for your refusal.

Of course, I know perfectly well that people are "too nice", which allow fear to disappoint the other, who dare not impose their views and prefer to go against their deepest desires rather to refuse to do something. Their entourages benefit also often because they know they can not refuse them. But here, these people "too nice" are simply weak. Deep themselves, they may be evil, which is it? But failing to win, they pose as people who accept everything, so for nice people.

However, kindness is not here. It is, as I said before, be helpful, kind, caring, no amendment is being submitted low. Being nice is not incompatible with assertiveness. I even think it is easier to impose its opinion when it is nice rather than shouting and "yelling" orders. But here's my point of view. In the vast majority of cases, malice always ends up turning against you people reject you and you find you end up alone. While kindness attracts people, provided that it is sincere and it does not counterparties. It is certain that if you play the kind of things to steal from someone, then you're ultimately a bad person and unworthy of the trust we bear you.

Today, the gentile is suspect in the eyes of some individuals. The latter, surrounded by bitter, jealous, envious, can not even imagine that people can be helpful, caring, friendly without any ulterior motive. However, it does exist. Damage to these suspicious they miss moments of sharing and exchanging authentic and compelling. If you nice, you meet such people, go your way, do not worry about what they can say and continue to be nice. Keep in mind that it is you're right.

Sure, it's easier and easier to be mean to be kind. A villain will say "shit" or "disengaged" and basta! the case is settled! While the gentle will consider your thoughts, interact with you, help you if you have any problems and here, it takes more time - and certainly more intelligent.

So I cry loudly: "Be nice! . Stop being jealous, envious of others. Stop them down, want to submit. Stop getting angry for trivial things. Stop ongoing conflict with others. Be friendly, helpful. Make a habit of dialogue. Tell your friends that you love them. Take care of your family, your children.

And, you see, you'll be happier. It's scientifically proven! Scientists United States, Sweden and Finland have shown that kindness is good against stress, anxiety and depression and even strengthens your immune system! So, kindness makes you live longer. So go ahead: "Be nice! "You will not regret it!